Social life tips

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Social life tips by coach Tracy K

Planning is the biggest key here! Plan, plan, plan! If you have a holiday or a birthday approaching, you’ll want to know exactly how to handle that scenario so that you do not fall off of your plan!

One idea to help you through is to eat before you go to the event. If you have some meat on board, you will be less likely to want to eat the tempting carby foods that are usually at every party. Even if you do not eat an entire meal, at least eat a piece of meat, some bacon, an egg, or other easy food. It will curb your hunger and keep you smiling at the same time!

Another idea would be to bring a meat dish to share! Cook up some chicken legs and thighs, or maybe bite sized pieces of steak on a platter. You could even make up a meat and cheese tray with boiled eggs or stuffed eggs to nibble on for you and your fellow party goers! There are many ways and many dishes that could be taken along with you so that you have foods that satisfy your hunger and give the best nutrients to others. It’s a win, win situation!

Social life tips by coach Elizabeth B

if you are eating out or with friends, again, make sure you don’t arrive hungry. Most hosts or restaurants will want to provide different choices, but as in grocery stores, there will usually be more carbohydrate and sugar foods than carnivore foods. 


I often eat some fat and protein before I arrive so I can be sure I won’t be hungry during the event. You can focus on the carnivore foods, if provided or offered, and avoid the rest. This way you can relax and enjoy the company and the conversation.


As a former restaurant owner, I can attest that it is always easier for the kitchen to remove an ingredient from a dish than to switch out or add one. Because of how prices are calculated, you may have accept paying the price on the menu, even without the rice or pasta. 


Removing dairy is usually easy because it is added to sauces at the last minute. Some sauces contain sugar and, unfortunately, the owner, if they aren’t the chef, may not even know this, and won’t be able to tell you if it does or does not, so it is best to avoid sauces. Ordering a plain steak or fish is always safest.

Social life tips by coach Dana S

Try to schedule social events away from food.

Avoid trigger foods.  Avoid putting anything sweet in your mouth, especially if you are a sugar or carb addict.

If your social situation is around food and it is appropriate:

    1. Eat before you go – eat fully to satiety.
    2. Bring something everyone can enjoy that you know you can eat.
    3. If you are comfortable enough and it is possible, discuss options with the host ahead of time.


At a restaurant

    1. If possible, call ahead to discuss options with the manager or cook. 
    2. Order meat (steak, burger, chicken, fish etc.)
    3. Ask meal to be cooked on a clean grill or pan with only butter, ghee, tallow, or water, or do the best you can with what they have. 
    4. If you can tolerate spices or herbs, fine but many seasonings have added problematic ingredients.  Otherwise ask for salt only
    5. Instead of non-carnivore sides see if they have add-on menu items or ala cart animal items.  You can sometimes order two ala cart steak or burger patties as an example, sometimes cheaper than a whole entre. You can add bacon and / or cheese /sour cream / butter.   If you can’t get them to swap your sides for something else, have them leave them off or put in separate dishes to share with the other diners. 
    6. If you know a non-carnivore food will not be a trigger and will not give you problems, it is okay to indulge.  What you don’t want is to derail yourself.  Just choose wisely.


  1. Remember, your diet is your choice.  People will have opinions both positive and negative. 
    1. If discussing your diet choices makes you uncomfortable or puts you on the defensive, avoid the topic. 
    2. Depending on your level of comfort discussing the topic, if asked, you can share as little or as much as you want.  A good option if asked is to share you are eliminating certain foods right now for health reasons. 

Social life tips by coach Michele F

If you know that you have an event coming up on your calendar, during which food will be involved, it can be a great idea to pre-eat before attending the event. Pre-eating will ensure you have the nutrients you need for your day and that you’re full and satiated, during the event. When you’re nourished and full, you will be much less likely to be tempted off your plan and away from your goals. Additionally, if someone offers you a food you don’t wish to eat, you can simply respond politely, “Thank you, but I’ve already eaten.”


If you’re attending the social function with a friend or close family member, you can notify them in advance that you’re working on a specific goal or way of eating. This way you won’t be caught off-guard or feel a need to explain to your friend/family during the social situation.


Holding a glass of water during the event may also help limited uncomfortable inquiries or interactions. People often feel naturally compelled (out of politeness or concern) to check that their guests have food or drink, and if you’re not holding a beverage, they seem to be more compelled to insist you must need something. Holding a beverage at an event, has helped me to visually convey to others that I’m well and satisfied, and it helps to avoid a conversation about why I’m not eating or drinking other things. 


If the event includes meat, fill your plate and enjoy!  Dr. Shawn Baker recently commented about the “decoy broccoli” – I love this phrase. If it helps to allow the restaurant to serve your steak alongside a piece of vegetable, go ahead and allow it on your plate (just not in your mouth)! It’s amazing how people will feel calmed by coach seeing the decoy broccoli (or decoy lemon wedge, or decoy carrot, or decoy anything!) on your plate. People are less likely to interrogate you about what you’re eating, if your plate looks more like their plate. Over the long-term, we become more comfortable with our choice and less concerned about what others think, but when initially making a change, there is some value and benefit in “blending-in” as it may help you reach your goals.


Lastly, but very importantly, when in social situations, remember to focus on the reason you are attending the event. Your purpose is generally about seeing friends, loved ones, or associates and it is not about the food. This is a good time to practice staying mindful in the social situation. Observe others and their interactions. Ask questions and really listen to people’s answers. And enjoy yourself!


You will have more energy to have a good time, socialize, and be an interesting guest because you’re not focused on food. 

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